I can FIX it. I swear.

God created me with a very big heart that's filled with huge amounts of compassion and empathy. I spent most of my life being a proud "FIXER". I've always been one who can fix pretty much any problem or answer any question. You need it I'll get it. You have a question I have the answer. Some people say I am the human Alexa or the human Google. Truth be told I have the job I have just for this reason. I am a VA, helping people all over the place. I am fixing and tending to their issues in business and personal, helping to make their lives easier.

I grew up thinking that to be someones friend that meant I had to fix all their problems so that they could remain happy and wouldn't have to hurt. I now know that this was wrong thinking on so many levels. I have realized if I am always trying to fix the problems of the people around me I am just exhausting myself and hurting others. Some of the things I have learned are:

• I can not go around fixing everyone problems because they will never have opportunities to learn from the issues they are going thru so I am hindering their growth which isn't fair to them.

• Sometimes people don't want it fixed sometimes they just want you to be a friend.

• If I am fixing everyone's problems I have now become everyones personal assistant and we are no longer friends I've become an employee.

• By wasting all my energy thinking/worrying about, fixing and tending to others problems I have taken away precious time in my life that could have been spent on foe filling things that would enrich my life and happiness.

• I am not God so I can't fix everything. (This one is the most important one.)

I always felt like fixing gave me a purpose. A reason why someone would want me in their life. And somehow that gave a little comfort to know "well they will keep around because I can fix things and make it better". Not once was there a thought that maybe this person wanted me in their life because they liked just being around me and spending time with me. They needed me so that's why they kept me on speed dial. Its nice to be needed but it's exhausting.

As I've gotten older and had time to learn me I realized that I had a lot of personal assistant jobs over the years and only a small amount of friends.

Along my journey I have changed my profession from "FIXER" to HELPER. I know it sounds similar but they have very distinctive differences. A "FIXER" has to fix the problem or they are never satisfied and they dwell and stress about finding the answer or the FIX. But a HELPER helps you along your way. They may help you find the answer or just offer a prayer or a word of encouragement to get you jump started. They don't spend their alone time dwelling on or stressing about how to "FIX" the other persons issue. They just help and move on to something else.

So today I pray that if you are a "FIXER" like I was that God would grant you with the wisdom of how to change your profession to a HELPER instead so that you can be free'd from the fixer prison that holds you captive.

Many Blessings~